I’m sorry if the title is a little bit off but hey! am just doing my job (a subtle journalist). Okay I found this article on Bunmi Babs’ page and I thought of sharing it here (why not?). After reading the article, you can either agree or disagree with her points (pick one). Read the article below…
According to Bunmi Babs aka Wordsmith:
Before you get all excited and grab that pen and paper for a tell-it-all en mi vida, please be reminded that I’m a single mom -ish, ergo, I do not have a mother-in-law…but I do have something very close, so I know what I’m saying.
I’m writing this because of an article I read on a blog a few days back, about someone asking readers’ advice on how to deal with her wicked mother-in-law, and it got me thinking; your mother-in-law can’t be mean to you if your husband doesn’t allow it – if he knows where to draw the line between his son and hubby duties, and knows to be objective when his mom has overstepped her bounds – but first, he has to know that there indeed are bounds, and make his mom know not to cross ’em. It’s not breaching loyalties, it’s being THE man.
My not exactly mom-in-law is one with whom I happen to be geographically close, and as such we have a rather interesting cum strained kind relationship – strained because we both have control tendencies, a need to be the one who’s got it all in line :-), I’ll let you picture what that is like…lol.
But while hers is more of a bulldozer approach, I’m more like the quiet you-see-the-line-right-there?-
don’t-cross-it kind of freak. And if my loud silence aint working it like it ought, I know where – or who – to literally rain on, and then he does the manual reset…cos he honestly would rather be the one doing the reset than me.
What I’ve learnt/noticed in the three or so years that I’ve known her however, is that she’s firm/strict, keeps a tab on everything that happens within her household, has everyone on a barely-there leash, and basically is the one seen to be in charge – like any other mother. Now ask yourself, how many organized homes with ‘disciplined’ children do you know that don’t have a matriach like that? Click HERE to read more
