What is love without trust and forgiveness? It amazes me when I see two people who claim to be in love with each other, yet they can’t forgive each other over whatever sin they might have committed. The last time I checked, Love is forgiving, love is caring, love does not hold grudges, love is trust, love does not give ego a chance, love is not proud.
Someone sent me a heartbreaking article on whatsapp few days ago and I finally took out time to read the sad tale of an unforgiving husband who allowed his ego to override his sense of reasoning. Sorry if I sound judgemental but I just have to state the fact and am sure most of you agree with my point after reading the article. Although the man is sorry for what happened but it was the tale of crying over spilled milk. Read the original article below…
“Yesterday, I went to interview a preacher. He came three hours late to his church, venue of our meeting and I was a bit angry. But when he explained what kept him, not only did I forgave him quickly and learned some lessons, but I decided to share this with you so that some of us could learn.
The story as told by the reverend:
Husband and his wife (his church members) had a domestic disagreement one morning. The man said he was was so bitter about it, claiming his wife knew she was wrong but refused to apologise. She felt it was a non issue and the husband should overlook easily. To say “I am sorry, darling”, to her husband was difficult for her.
Three days on, malice reigned in the house. The husband said he must get that “I am sorry.” Wife cooked, husband refused to eat. Everyday he came home with food from Tantalizer. He boycotted matrimonial bed. Husband found new friends in the children. Same with wife. By the way, the children were too small to break the ice.
On Sunday, last Sunday, they went to church in their different cars but sat side by side during service, pretending to be jolly good husband and wife. Fraud in the house of God! Jibiti ponbele! May God forgive some husbands and wives. But after service, husband went home with the children while she waited for women’s meeting. That day, Satan decided to enter the crevice they allowed in their home.
The husband was home already. When he perfunctorily checked his phone, his wife had called him thrice. He disregarded calling her back. Malice. The wife drove in some forty minutes later. He saw Usman opening the gate for her as his phone went on ringing. He checked it. It was his wife. She was in her car at the garage already. What is she calling me for? Foolish and stubborn wife! He said and ignored her calls. The call went on for a while. He ignored it as he sat with the TV.
Thirty minutes later, she did not come in. Something told him to go and check. Is she still in the car? Yes she must be there. He called Usman, Is madam in the car? Few minutes later, Usman rushed in. Madam dey sleep inside the car o. That was when he woke up and rushed downstairs. Asthma! Could she be having her usual attack? Could she have forgotten her inhaler?
He quickly took the inhaler and rushed downstairs. When he got there, she was almost breathless. Usman and husband quickly carried her to the back seat and off, he sped like a bat out of hell, to the clinic nearby. Madam was confirmed dead!
If he had picked her call early enough, probably she could have been saved. When you leave domestic disagreement to fester for too long, it leads to greater evil. The preacher said husband is weeping mad, blaming himself…I killed my wife! Only God knows how many wives, husbands, children have died such a needless death.”
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The world will be a better place if we can love (genuinely), trust and tolerate one another cos no one is perfect. FORGIVENESS IS VERY IMPORTANT IN OUR EVERYDAY LIVING.
Have a good day folks.
